Good Afternoon! It is a good afternoon. Just yesterday I encountered spending a few hours with my mother. She is here in Texas with me, and lives in an assisted living facility. This is a good thing for both her and me. She has her space, and I have mine, and although it may sound unkind, it is better for us both that way. You see we are very much alike, except that in my journey I have been working daily on staying focused on positives, and she hasn't seen her way to look toward the positives. It could be that that IS her journey. Maybe she is my teacher. You know sometimes the lessons are best modeled by what NOT to do. So, I limit my time in her proximity or else I find it almost exhausting to keep deflecting all her negativity. It's not her fault, it's no one's fault. It is just what she knows and is comfortable with.
Which leads me to today's topic. I have found small ways to bring her some joy, or I hope so. One thing I do for her is take to get her a pedicure to take care of her toenails. It is less expensive than taking her to the podiatrist, and she gets a little pampering too. Yesterday was that day. Her memory is fading fast, because I spoke with her earlier in the day and told her that I would be coming by after work to pick her up to get her pedicure and then we would go out to get something to eat. That was earlier in the day, and I should have called her in the afternoon to remind her. When I arrived, she had been sleeping and just wakened. She wasn't ready to go, and I was a bit miffed. Then she had to get her shoes on, then she wanted to brush her teeth, then she had to fold the blanket on her bed, then she, then she, then she. It was already 5:30 and a pedicure takes a bit of time, and the salon closes at 7:00. So, by the time we left it was almost 6:00. We arrived and didn't have to wait too long--a blessing. The pedicure was complete, then I took her to eat. Another ordeal, that did not have to be one. Her vision is not good, but she keeps saying she can't see. So, I went over the menu with her and we made a decision. The food was less than exceptional. It was flat out poor, no flavor and she complained about it. We told our waitress and she got her something else, and that wasn't great either (for her). I had the same thing at the beginning of the meal and it was quite good (to me).
So, I found myself starting to complain too. I'm trying to stay positive and focus on positive things, for what we focus on we attract. So, after I got home, I remembered about "allowance." She has the right to be negative, as much as I have the right to be positive. And even though, I want more for her, I have to allow her to have her journey and not let her journey become mine. I'll play my part in her journey, but it is not mine. I have a different journey. And I can trust that while she is teaching how NOT to be, I might just be modeling for her HOW she CAN turn things around for herself and enjoy all the good things and people she has in her life who truly care about her.
So, I guess this week's blog is about not getting caught up in another's attitude, but ALLOWING them their space and our holding space for them to shift. It's all in perspective. Love, Light, Peace, and Joy!
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